Family Care, Communication and Cohesion
Interruption and Imagination
We know the heartbreak and despair of watching helplessly while someone you love struggles with autism, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, and other conditions beyond their control. Our specialty services are one intervention (supportive detour away from the symptoms in a condition) and the family is another intervention. And not in the traditional sense. If an individual quits going to school or work, isolates from friends and family, engages in damaging and dangerous behavior, stops doing the things they enjoy, and falls short of their potential, we can interrupt that process.
Life can leave us behind if we have to face pain alone. Our intervention is rarely a gathering giving the person options to get help. We are non traditional practitioners in this way. Our interventions are tools (an interruption to an old process) that develop skills sets so the individual can enjoy self-efficacy (the ability to face life’s unexpected events). Interventions are part therapeutic (action), part support system (people). There is no other way to heal from these conditions. We do not fly away to an island to live life on life’s terms.
The Pacific Solstice team will bring together the skills (A) and the family (B) to help each patient thrive regardless of their chronic or intrusive illness. Instead of the island or spa, we create ways to rally around both interventions (skills and family) to practice life in a real way. Imagination and memory are important in the healing process. But, what is most important is learning. We change and grow when we are honest, open-minded and willing to live in the present. It will feel risky and unfamiliar to let go of living in the past or the future. But, the risks churn out more value than the costs. That is if, IF, you accept our support, ideas and presence next to you in the journey that makes everything worth fighting for.
Involving the family and support system is a top priority at Solstice. This is how individuals and family units truly heal and have lasting change. As a result, Solstice has various required sessions for the family to join. One of the most important ones is Family Intensive.
What: Family Intensive is a workshop that is completed the week prior to admission into the PHP or IOP program.
When: The Family Intensive is held weekly from Wednesday - Friday from 5-7PM
Where: The Family Intensive will be held in a group room at the Pacific Solstice Clinic
Address: 26732 Crown Valley Parkway suite #443 Mission Viejo, CA 92691
Who: Attendance is mandatory for the admitting patient and the entire support system or household (ages 10 years old +). Support system equivalates someone who is involved at least 20% of the time in someone’s life. If a family member or support system is out of the area, virtual accommodations can be made.
Why: The goal is for all families to be involved, have healthy expectations, and ultimately help the loved one (patient) finish the program strong. It also helps give the family a taste of the program experience, which not only destigmatizes the treatment process, but helps the whole family build necessary skills for success.
If the Family Intensive is successfully completed and the patient and family are ready to commit, intake will take place early the next week.
It is no small feat to take on mental illness and go through an intensive program without tools, community, and support. When a loved one experiences symptoms of mental illness and/or addiction, families start to support them and most often without information, education, community or other important resources.
Our family resources have been researched, vetted to ensure they are helpful for any family. Age, diagnosis, class, creed, gender, length of time in chronic illness … are secondary to applying these proven tools. Families will relieve themselves of stigma, receive encouragement and unite around education and solutions.
Here are resources we recommend:
- NAMI Family to Family
- NAMI Peer to Peer
- NAMI Warmline
- The Hope Line
- Helping Behaviorally Challenging Child
- Alcoholics Anonymous
- Narcotics Anonymous
- Co-Dependents Anonymous
- Celebrate Recovery
- Saddleback Peace Farm
- Suicide Prevention Hotline
Our reading list is comprehensive from integrative psychiatry to mental health support. These books will help enlighten and educate you to be your most improved and optimum self. Knowledge is not just power but a tool while you and your loved one are committed to mental, physical and emotional health.
- The Four Agreements - don Maguel Luiz
- Healing the Shame That Binds You - John Bradshaw
- When I say NO I feel Guilty - Manual J. Smith
- The Explosive Child - Dr. Ross Greene
- Good Enough Mother - Hillary Barnett
- What Happened to You - Dr. Bruce Perry, Oprah Winfrey
- Getting Past your Past - Francine Shapiro, PhD
- The Body Keeps the Score - Bassel van der Kolk, MD
- Codependent No More - Melody Beattie
There are many apps that can help learn and practice coping skills. It is imperative that you treat and implement these coping skills routinely and consistently as preventive practices. Imagine you are having an anxiety or panic attack or in crisis, now imagine yourself reaching out for a piece of paper/book/journal or some app to do a guided meditation, breathing exercise or other coping skill you know about, it is almost impossible to do them effectively let alone remembering to reach out for them. This is why it is important that you practice them daily multiple times to ensure they become habitual and automatic.
Consistent practices will lead to less frequent and shorter episodes of anxiety, depression, and prevent extreme reactions and emotional dysregulation. You will be calmer and more stable in your mind, body, and improve your focus and concentration to be more present and productive.
Apps You Can Find in the Android Play Store or Apple App Store:
Self Help Workshops:
What We Practice:
- Progressive Muscle Relaxation
- Sun - 15 minutes a day before 11am
- Mindful Walking
- EFT Tapping
- Creative Expression like Cooking or Painting or Pottery
- Guided Meditation for Sleep
- Guided Meditation for Anxiety
- Guided Meditation for Stress
- Guided Meditation for Children
- Guided Healing Meditation
- Reading a book (for your heart, for your mind, for fun)
- Listening to classical music
- Playing a musical instrument
- Petting and playing with a pet
- Grounding with all 5 senses
- Automatic Thought Logging